A word of support
March 10, 2013 5 Comments
Anyone who has ever been a child should be able to speak the truth about their childhood. It is the parents’ responsibility to give their child the best upbringing possible, and it should be the goal of every parent to give their children reason to speak well of them. If the truth in any way tarnishes a child’s parent’s reputation or memory, it is because that parent tarnished the childhood, and if so then that is the fault of the parent, not the child. Any parents, living or dead, who did their best for the child, with the best intentions, should have nothing to fear from the truth. An attack on the truth means there is something to hide, and that means there is all the more reason for the truth to be spoken.
And by “parents”, I mean both biological parents, adoptive parents and other guardians, in short anyone who has the responsibility for bringing up a child.
Anyone who struggles emotionally, even several decades later, from the aftermath of a traumatic childhood, be it due to abuse or neglect, or both, must be allowed to make efforts to heal themselves without running into hostility. Do not judge anyone unless you’ve spent enough time in their shoes and walking their path to know what they’re talking about. Until then, assume that you know nothing, and if you can’t say anything supportive, say nothing at all.
I am the father of two girls, and I hope that through my efforts as a parent, I am giving them reason to speak well of me, of their mother and of their childhood when they’re grown up.